Just because I am a widow doesn’t mean that I can’t make my own decisions. Please stop second guessing my choices.
Just because I am a widow doesn’t mean I am helpless. I am actually the opposite of helplessness. I watched my spouse die. I survived something that most people can’t even imagine. I might need help with some tasks, but don’t misconstrue that as helpless.
Just because I am a widow doesn’t mean that you can ignore my feelings and dismiss them as part of grief. Trust me, I have don’t more thinking in the past year than I did my previous 37 years. My feelings are very well thought out.
Just because I am a widow doesn’t mean that I need to defend my feelings, especially those about God. A widow is allowed to be mad at God. It is not your place to scold her or re-educate her. It’s up to the non-grieving to be supportive and understanding.
Just because I am a widow, it doesn’t mean I need to put up with poor treatment. I have been through something so horrendous that you probably can’t even comprehend. I miss my spouse and I can be lonely. But I am used to being lonely and I would choose that over being around people who treat me poorly.
Just because I am a widow doesn’t mean that I don’t have responsibilities. I have a full and busy life. I am not just sitting around my house.
Just because I am a widow doesn’t mean you can tell me how to raise my child. I am capable, thank you. My child is happy and well taken care of thank you.
Just because I am widow doesn’t mean I am desperate for love. (This one is directed to all the scam Twitter accounts that started following me. The ones that when you look at who they follow and they are all widows). Trust me, I had the love of my life and I lost it. When I decide to date again, it isn’t going to be with some random, bogus Twitter account.
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Thinking of you on Father’s Day. I imagine this is a hard one. I would be very mad at God, too. I remember reading a painting about grief that said, “Take as long as you need.” Nobody else can tell you how to go through it.
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Thank you. It is hard. I just can’t help but think about how he should be here.
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People who have absolutely no idea what this is like sure do love to give their opinions on the matter, don’t they? It’s an endless frustration.