On living and dying

Published on by kerrymckim

I received some very sad news this morning.  A friend of mine back home had been battling Stage IV cancer for a couple of years now and there isn’t anymore that can be done.  He will be going to Hospice.

My heart is heavy knowing what is in store for his wife and children.  While no two situations are exactly alike, I have a better understanding than most.

So if you are reading this and you are healthy, please be grateful.  Be grateful for the health of those around you.

Because life is temporary.  

And so are we.  

Someday you are going to die.
I am going to die.

Everyone close to us is going to die.  

Please take time to appreciate those in your life.  

Hold on tight to those who matter.

Don’t waste time on those who are toxic.

Please, please, please don’t live with regrets.

We always think we have more time.  

Except we don’t always have more time.

If there is something you want to do, do it.  If you don’t have the means, find a way to make the means.  If you don’t have the time, find the time.  But do it.  Or at least do something that is a step in that direction.  They say that you don’t regret the things you do, you are more likely to regret the things you didn’t do.

You are here.  

You are breathing.

You need to live.  To do.  To think.  To create.  To love.

Be passionate.

So while you are here, please, please, please make today count.

7 thoughts on “On living and dying”

  1. I’m sorry for what your friend and those who love him are going through. Thank you for this reminder to live. It’s so important to hear. We all get caught up in the day to day and mundane, even in the comfort of our bodies and forget to be grateful and do more living. Sending a hug. Sending two.

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  3. I recently lost my friend to cancer, only 44 he leaves behind a wife and two beautiful kids. I have followed your blog since the beginning I never really knew why as you and I are very different (cept we do like mugs) and lead very different lives but I am beginning to realise that maybe subconsciously I knew this moment was coming for my friend and I knew I would do everything I could to help my friend navigate through this new reality. What I find inspiring in your posts is your bravery in living and documenting your journey I know your husband would be so proud of you. I don’t know how you and now my friend do it, I can’t even begin to imagine. I have forwarded a few posts of yours to her and she can relate somewhat so I have told her to message you directly when she is ready, hopefully you can help each other.

    x

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    1. It’s funny how life brings people together. Even if it doesn’t make sense at the time. I am beginning to think that there are no coincidences. Everyone is in our life for a reason.

      I am so sorry to hear about your friend and please let me know if I can help in anyway. Widowhood is a lonely place to be. Feel free to find me on Facebook under Kerry Ann McKim. If she desires, I am connected to many Facebook groups of young widows and I would be happy to connect her. Sometimes it help to not feel alone.

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